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  • That's right, don't let him ruin your life anymore. It's been nine years so you should get over it and stop thinking about it. It is probably hard for you, but think on the bright side, the past is the past, and it's not like you had a choice. Things like this happen everyday to people unfortunately.

    It is time to move on with your life. Think positively, forget the past.
  • smile

    you can start with small hugs at first just squeezes really thenwork uo to hugs...

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  • I am sorry that this happened to you, but there are support groups that will help you or a theropist will do the same. It isn't your shame, it is his and always remember that.
  • i feel ya. that's the past though, if your friends want a hug just remember that by hugging them you're not letting that creep still have it over you, so hug away. let the past go and build a better future.
    it's hard to forget and you probably wont, but dont let it consume you. think about the good things in life.
  • You should get help from a professional, its not as easy as saying the past is in the past, It does and will haunt you, but you choose to give it the power to control your life, and once you learn to control the memories you'll be able to move on. First you HAVE to ALLOW yourself to grieve. You lost the biggest thing you had as a woman, your virginity and no one will give that back to you, you were a little girl and its NOT your fault. Find a professional who can help you learn to be touched.
  • This is serius. You need counseling to take your power back. It had to be someone you trusted cause it is tainting your trust in people you love. I KNOW, it happened to me, AND my husband when we were kids too. It helps to associate with people who understand and are victors over the experience. My heart is rooting for your recovery.
  • if you can find the guy ... find him and cut his balls off.... ull feel much better
  • i agree
  • tell somebody.
  • STUPID PEOPLE WHO SAY JUST GET OVER IT...THEY HAVE NOT BEEN IN A SITUATION LIKE YOU...I FEEL YOUR PAIN AND GOD WILL DEAL WITH THOSE PEOPLE...DON'T TURN PEOPLE AWAY WHEN THEY WANT TO HUG YOU, IT'S A WAY FOR THEM TO SHOW THE AFFECTION THEY HAVE FOR YOU...AND IN TIME YOU WILL BE ABLE TO HUG BACK...WHEN YOUR READY....
  • There is a whole army of proffesional councilors out there trained to help people EXACTLY like you..

    This person has ruined 9 years of your life... You were a kid and couldnt help that throughout your teens.. You have grown up... Now you can. So dont let him ruin the rest of it.
    Seek help and throw this monster out of your head for good... it CAN be done with help...believe me. Even Mom & Dad may be able to help more than you give them credit for or perhaps a good man who may come into your life....You need to open your arms.. or no-one can, good OR bad. Good luck.
  • i am sorry to hear of what happened to you so long ago. one of the best ways to move forward, and this is the hardest part, is being willing to expose those deep dark secrets to the light of day. whether it with a therapist, your folks, or someone you trust to listen and not judge you, simply telling the secret to someone helps reduce the secret's power over you. confessing here is a good first step, but to truely move on, you must be willing to be vulnerable with someone who will help you. that is what makes this so hard, someone exploited your vulnerability once. to be vulnerable again is the last thing you want to do, but it is also the way in which you will climb out of this.

    you can do it!
  • People who say just get over it or stop thinking about it or move on have NO IDEA what that is like. I was sexually molested when I was 11 and raped when I was 17... I know how you feel.... Try talking with God more and more and find a therapist.... If you attend a church, try talking with your preacher/minister/priest, etc.... That's what I did and now I'm seeing a great counselor.... They usually know of someone who you can start seeing.
  • ohh so sorry to hear about it. i hope you enventually overcome your trauma. don't let it destroy you!!
  • some of you guys are fuckin clueless. you cant tell someone to just get over it like dat. it doesnt work like dat. you need to have it happen to you and see what you say then. you guys are fukkin mean. datz not nice.

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  • how was the you know?????
  • u deserve what u go
  • Wow thats pretty hot.
  • im sorry 4 what u went through, i know its tough cuz i know where u are right now, but the other is right. dont let him ruin your life anymore! u CAN get to a point where hugging feels safe and cozy. force yourself to do it more with safe people and it will start feeling more normal
  • see a therapist. Nothing wrong with seeing a doctor, they do wondeful things.
  • Some things and people need professional help to finally move on. Trying to "just get over it" is not helping you at this time. There is a new(?) idea in psychology that you can only deal with the present. Don't get caught up with this idea. You are partially what your past has made you, and you need to deal in the present with the effects of that past. You need tender understanding care to find that it was not your fault, and that you can learn again to trust a right person. I will think good thoughts for your happiness.
  • whoever commented before me is a complete idiot. seriously 'just get over it' have you ever been raped before? no? then shut the heck up.

    you should start by finding a boyfriend (or girlfriend if you are a lesbian) and just hold hands.. then be close, then closer, then cuddle.. and go from there.

    its worth fighting for sweetie, i'll tell u that much.

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  • try therapy.it helps to talk and get it off your chest
  • Scarily enough, I know EXACTLY what you mean... I wasn't raped, but I was sexually abused 6 years ago, when I was 10. Since then I can hug people (only best, best friends though) but I can't get close to people... I can't have a relationship with anyone because everytime I get close to them, I get the same fearful feeling in my stomach, and I just can't.
    I don't like being touched at all.

    Isn't it strange how badly assault can affect you, but still in most courts, it's consider a smaller crime than, say, murder?
  • The statute of limitations never runs on most child abuse crimes. Even if the perpetrator was himself a minor you should still be able to nail the bastard. I know you probably don't want to face him, but maybe you ought to consider bringing the incident into the limelight and ruining that fuckers life for a change. You have nothing to be ashamed of. Let him be the one that runs and cowers.
  • It takes a strong person to ask for help. Don't be ashamed, get help. I have let some asshole invade my life for so long and now I am starting therapy and life is much more hopeful.
  • You will never be able to "let it go" but you don't have to let it determine or define who you are. These friends and your parents are hugging you out of love, not hate, power, lust, etc...If you haven't told anybody, do so, see a therapist or friend/family , just to talk, just to get it off your chest. It will help.
  • good for you!
  • Please just show this article to your parents;....say nothing and they will do the rest. Your physical body was raped take your soul back. You are an awesome person. I know you can do this.
    People do care!

  • sorry this had happened but try to forget it... i to was raped so i know how your feeling.....
    but remember you still got your family behind you..just let them know.... i did and they were always supporting me.........100%
  • I feel really bad about that, I really hope people you can cope with that problem. As for the guy who did it to you......He'll get what he deserves, one day.
  • People who rape or molest children are sick. You are a victim and know, know deeply that the person that raped you was sick. Don't be a victim just because you were victimized. Seek counseling. You are not alone either.
  • just do it even though it feels uncomfortable. over time it will become less creepy feeling. i hope you find the path to support and recovery. even though i don't know you, know that someone is thinking of you and mentally sending you the support you need to heal. peace out sistah!
  • As a rape victim, and a psychologist, I strongly urge you to seek out psychological treatment. Look for a therapist who specializes in trauma and sexual abuse. The sooner you begin the soon you will start to heal. A trauma that is still affecting your daily behavior 9 years later requires treatment for resolution.
  • A good start would be to GIVE HUGS to those people you WANT to hug and show affection. It's NOT your fault. You're a great person,and it is OK to show affection to those YOU love.
  • you didn't lose the most "important thing for you as a woman" that someone mentioned above. You are not a commodity, not an item. Your virginity doesn't have a damn thing to do with your worth as a human being, nor does it change the fact that you were violated.

    Sorry about what happened. Find a cognitive behavioral therapist or a good friend to talk to. Cognitive therapists effective in my experience. They don't encourage you to ruminate and dwell on past hurts. They help you in the moment, and help you cope with a life altering trauma.

    I wish you all the best.
  • Find God, his love heals all. Serious!
  • Hell yea sweet heart hell im a guy and i was fucked over and seduce by a fucking 34 yr old i believe men that do that should have thier cock chopped off put into a blender tied in a chair and put in a room with fucking porn to be toortured the rest of his life :)
  • Time will heal most things. You will never forget but maybe with counseling or talking to someone will help you feel better.
  • im so srry that u had to go through with that !!
    it is not your fault . but remember u should get over that and try to forget it an not let it rewein the rest of your life
  • damn turz hitting on rape victims by trying to be understanding. Classy move.
  • I know you feel ashamed and don't want to talk about it because I've been there, but you need to start to realize that it wasn't your fault, you were too young for it to be and talk to someone about it, you will eventually feel better, I still feel the pain but also realize it wasn't my fault and there was nothing I could do to stop it
  • To progress in your life you need to accept that it happened and use it to make you a better person, not a suspicious and cautious one. You dont have to agree with what happened, but you should accept it.
  • u need professional help. don't listen to idiots who say get over it. it's a cruel thing to say. someone violated you and that is the biggest offence ever. please seek help and god bless.
  • It ain't where ya from, Its where ya at. heads up baby, work shit
  • I guess not all react the same. When I turnd 16, my first sex was with my mom's friend who was around 45 at the time. Did it mentally screw me up as some might expect? Not at all! Very fond memories. I can still recall the incredible feelings of warmth and wettness while inside her and going down on her. She was chubby, small saggy boobs and not that good looking but i loved every minute of our experiences. Would I do it again? Yes! Just my two cents worth.
  • Everyone deals with their problems in their own way. I have been where you have been. It doesn't matter what you do about it, it will always be a part of you. Getting over it and forgetting about it to me is not an option, dealing with it and learning to live with it is though. I found that talking about it did help, but that wasn't easy, I can share happyness with others, but I'm not good at sharing bad things. I hate making others feel bad, so that didn't really help me. I do know one thing, you shouldn't allow that person that did that to you ruin the rest of your life. Try to figure out how you can deal with it and do it, writing about it, talking to friends or professionals ... I wish you all the best and hope you figure it out.
  • I don't think a doctor will help right away. you need to be sure the counsellor you see (not necessarily a doctor) is specially trained in this area. I've been in your situation and have had similar intimacy problems, and I have been sent to and fro to doctors and counsellors and none of it helps unless you can tell them your story and its details and unless they are specially expert in this area to help you. I haven't found the person who will help me yet, but I'm sure they are out there somewhere. Let's hope you find your support person sooner.
    I did get help from a new partner but as he doesn't know about these things (he is not a trained counsellor in psycosexual therapy!), the help is limited also it burdens him too much so I feel generally relying on a non-professional is unhelpful.
    Let us know how you get on, and I wish you all the best.
  • I'm so sorry you had to go thru this.. I wish you all the courage to lift yourself up from this.
  • Ive never been raped... have no idea how that must feel, especially as a child. Really sad. BUT, you're an adult now and YOU have the power. You want to hug your Mom? Take her aside, take her to lunch or just say "Mom, I need a hig right now."
    Sinece you've ostracized your hugging public, its up to you to take the first step. Start with someone you love and trust and before long you'll be all over the place, hugging trees.
    PS: I dont like to be touched either. No past issues, its just that I like my private space kept private. :-)
  • you deserved it
  • Hey, I can only imagine how that would feel, I had a similar thing happen to me in primary school and I thought it didn't affect me for a long time, untill I realised that everytime someone tried to get too emotionally close to me I'd push them away, I ended up losing a couple of friends and really nice boyfriends because I was scared. Eventually I met someone I could talk to, who I've now been with for a year and a half, and I told him. It was scary to admit but when I did, I felt so much better, I also told my parents who totally understood. Just wanted to make sure you knew you're not alone in this, it's time to get your life back, good on you :)
  • I was raped many times in my youth...now I deal with it by fucking and sucking anything and everything...and guess what? I love it...so let go...move on...and suck and fuck your way out of this...it works and is alot more fun than therapy!
  • Find a free therapist (at a college you go to, or health care center). Many are anonymous and they will allow you to continue your life.
  • It's all about taking it one step at a time. Just explain to people that you're not comfortable with being touched, and start with accepting it by degrees. You just need to bear in mind that hugs are generally signs of affection and a privilege really. A touch at first, then work your way up to a hug. Take your time. You'll get there with time
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  • Get counselling/therapy.
  • i had a friend that was seriously sexually and physically assaulted when she was 13.. she never told her parents because like you she ddint think they should have to carry that burden.... i have alwasy thought she should have told them because they love her and will support her. Rememeber next time you look at the clock that time moves forward always so dont think backward. Life is about looking to the future and making it a positive one.
    Good Luck... You are very brave and i feel humbled by your confession
  • The past affects the present. If you truly want to get over it, then you have to accept that others care about you and your well being. Part of accepting that is accepting a hug. Those who care about you will NOT do what he did to you, because they DO care about you and want to give you love, not pain. Please see a professional. You deserve to be as happy as possible.
  • yeah just getting over is NOT gonna help so i think that you should go and talk to someone that has been in a situation like yours so you will get to move on with your life....
    the guy that raped you will get whats coming to him.. maybe he'll get raped.. lol u never know....

    but if u arent ready for a relationship.. at least start with hugging your friends and you can move on to a relationship and if he/she makes you feel uncomfortable then dont let him go that far
  • dID YOU lIkE IT?
  • dang rapist >:U they should all die....wich they will anyways
  • You have to take control of your life. None of your friends or your parents are going to try to take away your innocence. None of them will shame you.

    You should explain to your parents and a psychiatrist what happened. Speaking out does help.

    I wish you all the best.
  • I feel you're pain. When I was young my dad molested me, my childood memories involved going to court, being depressed, and getting restraining orders from my own father. Im sooo sorry you had to go through this. I wouldnt wish it on my worst enemy. I'm glad you're being strong about it though. God bless
  • I'm glad that people before me wrote that the whole "get over it" mentality is wrong. Sadly, I relate to your confession in two different ways. I stopped hugging my parents when I was about 13 and I found out that they'd both been cheating on each other and all kinds of other drama. I just couldn't bring myself to do it and I still can't There are many people who aren't comfortable with touching for whatever reason.

    I was raped myself, although much later in life than yourself. (I was 21 and i'm 23 now) At first I buried it, but then I kept having nightmares and panic attacks. I couldn't stand to hear a man breathe heavily or if he stared at my breasts because that's what my rapist did. I'm still having issues because I haven't been in a relationship since the attack and I like someone now. I'm absolutely terrified that we'll go for intimacy and I'll beat the hell out of him because I get reminded of something the rapist did.

    Basically, it's hard and it takes time. NO ONE can tell you how long you need for closure on this. I will agree with the fact that you should take action so this doesn't make the rest of your life harder than it needs to be. Talking does help. In most cities free rape counseling is offered. Check with women's organizations. I went to counseling through a women's shelter (so everything was super-secretive and I knew I was anonymous). My counselor there had me relive the attack. At first I was absolutely against the idea, but that's actually the step that helped me the most. It helped me to get angry at him and later forgive him so that I could move on. I'm not going to lie, you're never going to forget it. It's never going to be magical, but PLEASE talk to someone for your own sake. It wouldn't hurt to tell your family either when you're comfortable with it.

    Best of luck.

    P.s. check this site out: http://www.myspace.com/victimsnomore
  • pssh imagine if u had to see that person who raped you everyday! my brother started raping me when i was 9 and yes my BROTHER whe stopped when i was 11 and im now 13 and i feel bad bc i have tried to tell my parents but everytime i come close i get scared my parents wont believe so i told my best friend and she wants me to run away and leave a note y but i have no where to run except to my friend in tenesee and i live in illinois and the ad thing about if i did run away to him i would have to tell him y and he would just go up there nd kick my brothers butt. so im stuck i love my brother as a brother though but i hate him as a lover. he only stopped bc i told him i would tell mom and dad if he ever touched me again. just today my brother tried to get me to do something by threatening to tell them that have ran away before but came back before my parents came home bc they were on vaacation for like a week. yet not only do i have to see him everyday i have to be reminded every day bc my brother always dates chicks who r like me. it so gross i always feel like im going to puke when i see him and when think about what he did to me i feel like its my fault and i dont know what to do and i feel i dont deserve to live bc i havent told my parents.
  • i love you
  • I know exactly how you feel. I went through the same thing. And the person I was raped by was someone who was supposed to protect me and love me. So how do you trust anyone after that? It's been 15 years and I still deal with it. And I'll be honest with you. I have seen therapists and psychiatrists, but I never felt right with them. Put your faith in God. That is the best medicine. He loves you and he will in time pull you through.
  • Get his ass thrown in jail!
  • girls cry rape all the time
  • Tell me....coz i share the very same feeling as yours.But mine case being a bit different..

    the only girl of my parents...a kinda sex obsessed by my dad in my youth.Even today i prevent wearing a tight fitted top cuz i know his eyes will be wandering over the circumference of the shapes.Disgusting it is but yet its true!

    But i never let this feeling creep into other relations...not even with my dad.I still love him coz when i was young he went thru a tough phase of his life.May be lost some mental imbalance and thus did stuuf like this.The irony is that from the past 20 years i had been seeing him each and every day.You might have slipped out of the thoughts of that man for a while...but i am trapped.

    Even then....i hug him....though not completely..jus by the sides..But when this act comes to my frineds.I never let the past mess up with present.Coz a day will definitely come when i would have to sleep with a man only!

    So dear friend...i know my case is lot more diff. from yours and you have gone through a much traumatic experience..but yet...dont ruin your future jus by lingering to the past....move on...cuz one day you will crave for love in your life and certainly it wont be all about two bodies....your body may be impure but your sould shudnt be

    take care and wish you luck!
  • Call a rape crisis line. It doesn't matter that the event happened years ago. They will give you resources for working through this traumatic event. There are many people who have reported this type of thing many years afterwards, you aren't the only one.
  • I can identify with you on that one, I had the same thing happen to me but when I was 16. I love being held, especially from behind but since thats how he held me when he did it I have flashbacks and nearly burst into tears anytome someone holds me like that. I dont like to be seen crying because it depresses everyone around me so when it happens I just turn to my bf and bury my head in his chest. When he asks whats wrong I simply shake my head and tell him I love him so much...he'll never know that my favorite embrace in the world cuts me like knife.
  • You are not alone. I had something similar happen to me as a child and was also raped as an adult and I don't like to be touched either. Especially hugged by a stranger.
  • I am so sorry to read what you have been going through! I can't say I know how you feel or have been in your shoes, but I just pray that you will find peace and comfort in the arms of your friends and family.
  • Absolutely try therapy. You some how feel deep down that you caused this to happen and you probably susconsciously think it started with ahug. You were betrayed and a godd therapist will help tremendously. Remember this... If you try to get out of it by yourself your only fooling yourself. Sometime when your older it will come back and then it will be harder for you to get better. Start today...
  • When I was 11 I wanted to be raped
  • TURD
  • I think you should get someone to kill the guy who raped you.

    Why not?
  • lol owned
  • Don't be affraid. NEVER BE AFFRAID of ANYTHING or ANYONE. There is nothing to be affraid of, because you are a STRONG individual.

    It is said that in order to overcome your fears, you must confront them. Therefore, you must confront the guy who did this to you. But don't confront him alone, you must do it with the most power you got in hand. Your family, or someone close to you that you can trust and know you are safe with.

    Remember that you are not 11 anymore, and that YOU CAN AND MUST CONFRONT HIM because he took your happiness away.

    So take it from him, take what is rightfully yours!!!
    As he is nothing but a small bug and you are 20,000 times bigger than him.

    It's okay to be Angry, But it's not okay to be sad....
    Take your happiness back home with you and KNOW that YOU CAN DO THIS.
  • dang. i know how that feels. i myself have been raped and its not the easiest thing to get over. i guess im lucky, i found someone to love me and not hurt. im happily married and he knows all about my past. i guess when your ready to let some of it go you will be a bit better. but there isnt a day that goes by that i dont think of what that bastard did to me. you'll be okay..just pray about it..god will lift the pain out of your heart.
  • to be honest i been raped... :(

    no 1 know and i wasted soo much life i regret not tellin anyone
  • Just talk to someone you really really trust, and they can help you, its not easy tho, but don't let that situation take over your life, just talk to someone you really trust, and associate yourself more with loved ones
  • stay strong honey!!
  • haha. talking about it will not really help. because you'll talk to someone about it, they'll try to help. but throughout the whole time, that's all you'l be thinking about. rape. I understand what your saying, because i don't like people touching me either. It makes me feel weird. sometimes it makes me feel like their going to hurt me.
    But i want people to hug me, i get jealous when i see all these other people getting hugged and i'm never one of them.
    Once in a while, i'll get hugged. but you have to start slowly. Start hugging maybe a pet you have, or a stuffed animal.
    Then you really close friends.
    I'm sure that once your body and everything gets the point that hugging now is safe, as long as it's hugging people you really do trust and know wouldn't hurt you. =] hope i helped.
  • HYPNOTHERAPY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THE SOLUTION!!!!!
  • The terror and violation of rape at age 11 doesn't go away easily. People mean well when they say "Move on". But it will be a scary leap of faith to even get started.
    Someone not worthy of you has stolen your affection and ruined your chances to build trust and closeness.
    When you can find courage to risk affection, it will be a great gift to yourself and another person.

  • my gf was raped at 8, and wont tell anyone and wont let me tell anyone. her mom doesnt even know. I would suggest therapy
  • god bless
  • god bless
  • god bless
  • god bless
  • Get help from a professional. Every day you deny yourself, it leaves you not in control of your life. It will be OK..
  • Karma, it'll get to them if it hasn't already. I was in a similar situation, I know it hurts.
  • I am the same way! I was molested when i was 8 by a group of men and raped at the age of 10. I am 17 and still trying to get over it.

  • wow. i cannot imagine being in your position. i know this is cliche, but you should tell your parents. therapy may or may not help, but this would be hard to get ever, so just tell your parents or someone you trust....you cant keep this inside.
  • Work your way up. Start off with handshakes and then move up
  • i pray that you will be better soon :)
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  • i can not imagine beeing in your position but i feel it would be the best first step to talk about it with some of your closer friends. eventhough i never had an experience as bad as yours i ever had i feeling like you do, beeing afraid of having people close. Since i started to talk about this feeling with some friends just 2 months ago it became much easier for me to let them come close, because they know my fear and are careful. you cant repress it, but talking about it will make you feel better, hopefully. Good luck
  • Children who are sexually abused often have problems with innocent intimacy. I'm the same way. I'm very uncomfy in one on one situations, sharing feelings or hugging.
  • don't worry, it wasn't your fault.
  • My mom was raped and held hostage for almost a week by a guy who raped her every day. I am very happy to say that although this still scars her to this very day that she has healed in an unbelievable way. She is now a nurse practitioner who helps many people who have gone through similar experiences.
  • Just jump off a bridge.
  • you are BRAVE to even post this.
    that just proves that you can get over it, and eventually be able to be touched and to touch again.
  • just let it go and let them hold you however YOU want.
  • i was sexually abused from the age of 7 till 16.
    i'm healthy now, and living with my boy friend in a good relationship.
    you know what i learned?
    you have to take resposibility for what happened even though you didn't want it. your an adult now.
    you know what? even after therapy, those thoughts won't go away. it's sad but true.
    and i learnt,
    i can't make them go away but i can live my live proud and strong with my chin up and they may seep in, but i know what i want, and i will over ridethem when they come...because i'm in control, i'm the adult now. and i'm in control.
  • Personally speaking...Theropy. No Further Suggestion. Last and only option. The world provides it through socialising, however today it seems more effective to actually talk to a theropist.

    Wish you all the best of luck, God Bless!
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  • That happen to me to at 14 and i was beat and nw two years later i nw have a kid that is cute but a mistake as much as it hurt to say that me and baby had been threw so much i knw it has made me stronger and brave bt just between me and you i am stil scared and cry myself to sleep and know that is not my fault so it not your fault etheir ma so i wish you da best and hope you get the point ma ITS NOT YOUR FAULT
  • thats so sad :(
  • How Old Are U Now Then? I am 11 And I cant Hug People Espessiall Females Because I Think Im a lesbian Or Bi
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  • whoever did that to you is a bastard!...but listen to me you have to be confident coz uve gt a log life ahead!..just dont doubt yourself!..
    ppl love you thats why they hug you and its ok if u dont like hugs wait fr a person who u truly comfortable with!..im sure u wil!
  • uuummmmmm yea...... bullshit you're a failure. if you were "raped" 9 years ago why did it take you 9 years to seek help. i think your a lying asshole and if you by chance are telling the truth stop bitching and get some fucking help you dumbass.
  • :(
  • you stand up for yourself. you deserve to have a life free of him & what he did to you. stand up strong and set yourself free of his trap. i have faith in you, you can do it.
  • So I had a wife, beautiful, like you, who tells me I worry too much. Who tells me I ought to smile more. Who gambles and gets in deep with the sharks. One day, they carve her face. And we have no money for surgeries. She can't take it. I just want to see her smile again, I just want her to know that I don't care about the scars. So... I stick a razor in my mouth and carve a smile on my face.
    And you know what? She can't stand the sight of me! She leaves. Now I see the funny side. Now I'm always smiling!
  • :) forget the past, it will only drag you down
  • its the same with me, i was raped at 11 years old, i couldnt even hold hands with people til i was 14 and finally decided to go to therapy, it really helped alot, you should try it
  • if i new tht guy i would kill him coz im a physco
    no not really but if u get help from a therapist like the comment above me said it shld help sum1 tryn raping my sister at a party 2 weeks ago and now she needs a therapist and tht guy is gna pay
  • im sorry :[
  • im sorry... i think you should move on... life is short, so hug everyone you love and tell them how much you love and care for them... it'll be hard at the beginning but if they're the ones you truly love, you'll get over it... you cant erase the past, so make good memories at the present and dont let your past experience ruin the present.
  • hug your self, love yourself, when loving yourself you open up a world of letting others shine affection.... either seek help or try harder to let the past be the past and time will heal you
  • HEY



    I DEFINATLY UNDERSTAND..

    I HATE BEING TOUCHED IT PISSES ME OFF!!! AND SOME PEOPLE AT DIFF TIMES MESSED WITH ME .......


    BUT OVER THE YEARS I HAVE LEARNED TO REPRESS IT AND NOT THINK ABOUT IT ALL THE TIME... AND I LIVE A PRETTY NORMAL LIFE NOW... MARRIED WITHA FAMILY... AND I DONT GET MAD AT MY HUSBAND FOR TOUCHING ME.. JUST OTHER PEOPLE...

    WHAT HAPPENED WAS WRONG TO YOU AND TO ME... BUT I FIGURE YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE AND THATS IT AND TO TRY S HARD AS IT MAY BE NOT TO LET IT CONTROL YOUR WHOLE LIFE. GOOD START BTW FOR SAYING THAT...

    I HOPE YOU THE BEST....

    TAKE CARE SWEETIE!!!!

    [WE WILL MAKE IT]!
  • Karma shall find this nameless one and return to them what they have given
  • I guess a blow-job is out of the question then?
  • the last comment damn whoever he is, shameful

    only u can rebuild who u r and get on with things
    find someone u feel comfortable with, who wont base your counselling on some crap tv show (rest assured i had one who did that) and chat...u also have 2 b careful of those who you think u can trust cause if u tell some people, later in time they'll use it against ya............i'm just being honest here.......people are so evil in who they tell.........
    just take good care of yourself, its not your fault.
  • i know how hard it is. it happened to me. i haven't told anyone either, but you can't let it keep you from human contact forever. i can't keep a stable relationship yet, but I'm working on it, and so should you. I know you can do it. Confessing it is half the battle.
    Good luck. You can do it. i believe in you.
  • STOP being a rape victim! START being a rape survivor!
  • I would love to rape you over and over for a period of days just to remind you what a useless piece of shit you are. After I'm finished with you I would slit your throat and watch you die. Bitch! Cunt!
  • I am a rape survivor.
    For 5yrs over and over by a family member untill I was 15. I had to learn to put it in the past. and the way to get even is to exel in ways others thought you couldnt.
    I am now 50. I have out lived him (by 13 yrs)
    And I became a better parent and person then he could have ever been.
  • First I want to apologize for all rude comments some people posted, I would recommend professional help for you look into groups like WAR ( women against rape) and give yourself a break its hard to overcome the things that scare- been there done that. try to push the comfort level a little at a time, try to find someone you can trust.
    Remeber that rape has nothing to do with affection, nothing to do wth love nothing to do with the best parts of life and honestly I came to the conculsion after years of self destructive behaviors that giving over whole parts of my life was worse then being raped. I was just the damage he left behind and until I let it go I was just existing not living. Best of luck

  • hope you find peace and normalcy in your life soon.
  • yeah you should cut off a few penises to get even, then maybe you can hug again
  • my fiancee was raped when she was younger than that. and her fear is that she would become a slut...but she bit her lip and pushed through that shit. but dont listen to anyone about getting over that...rape is the worst thing imaginable... take your time, but be careful not to hurt the ones you love.
  • It's a great tragedy and you must get rid to think of him more.
  • you are strong and beautiful, dont let anyone tell you or make you feel different.
  • don't listen to the morons who say just get over it..they haven't ever been raped or had a horrible thing like that happen so they don't crap to begin with..I know how hard it is for you b/c my sister was raped..you need professional counseling and you are incredibly courageous to come on the net and tell everyone this..God bless you sweetheart..you are beautiful, talented and strong! Iknow its really hard but you should also try to tallk to your parents about it so they can support you..you don't deserve to suffer in silence
  • and for the ppl with filthy comments, I hope you die
  • disgusting pig.

    whoever raped you is a disgusting pig.

    talk to someone. you'll feel better.
  • u know what u should do just
    go to a gun store
    buy a shotgun and blast that motherfucker in his fuckin brains then run away
    dont try to kill urself!!!
    go and look for help
    thats what i did with some guy that tried to rape me
    5 years later i looked 4 him and i killed his whole family
    this was a true story my name is
    elisa gothico im french
    and i killed my raper
  • YOU DESERVED TO GET RAPED AGIAN YOU STUPID FUCKING BITCH!!!!
    WOMEN ARE TOOLS FOR MEN, NOTHINGS MORE
    HE SHOULD HAVE RAPED YOUR MOM TO
    AND MADE YOUR DADDY RAPE YOU AS WELL
    AD FUCK BEING 11
    6 YEARS OLD BABY
    THAT WHEN YOUR LIL PUSSY AND ASS SHOULD HAVE BEEN RIPPED TO BLOODY STRIPS OF FLESH BY HIS COCK!!!
  • you obviously still have issues you should talk to a professional so you can move on
  • I think you are so brave for sharing your confession. Ignore the ignorance. No matter what anyone says you were robbed of something special-your ability to love and be loved and to feel safe. I think you should reveal the truth to your loved ones and if this person is still around, you should definitely speak out. It's part of you learning to heal and it will help it not happen to someone else.
  • Seek Help through Therapy. Go to a therapist and talk about it, Talk talk talk talk talk, till it loses it's power over you. Don't let this one event define your level of happiness in your life. YOU ARE BETTER THAN THAT!!!! YOU DESERVE MORE!!!! You will be able to be confortable around affection again. Forge your spirit in the furnace of your will and feel the true power that you posses!!!
  • find him kill himand ran to the caribbean island i feel it for you ok i will have you in my prayers
  • pwn3d
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  • i can not imagine what it must be like to be raped. but i can see the difference between people who love you and the one who raped you. i think the best way to get rid of your problem is to talk about it with someone you trust. like your parents or some close friends. maybe get some help. i think the only way to get better is to talk a lot. maybe look for people who are raped too. they can understand your feelings better. but talkng will make you able to relavate the feelings you have and maybe will get you back on track. good luck. touching each other should feel good.
  • Probably was asking for it...
  • Sad...all men are not the same....I could hold you in my arms for eternity and it would seem but a moment for me
  • Now you've got me wondering if something bad happened to my daughter.

    You have to realize that the people who love you would be just as hurt if they found out that you had been all alone, crying yourself to sleep, night after night. What happened to you wasn't fair, but you need your family if you're going to recover.

    What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.

    ps. tell your father before you tell the authorities. Once the rapist is in custody it's too difficult to capture and torture him and innocent people could get hurt. If your dad is like me, then it won't even be necessary to involve the authorities.

    it would be one less institutionalized scumbag sucking down taxpayer money for his three square meals a day, weightlifting, cigarrettes, and viagra prescriptions.
  • Be strong my dear. It is sad to think of what you have experienced. Try your best to be constructive.Avoid thinking of this horrific past. Keep busy focus your future..

    As for those heartless men . . . . with all the lame comments .... i hope you end up in prison and get a huge black dick up you ass.that should make you comment better.
  • This makes me sad
  • i am sure u enjoyed it and now wanna have it again n have no control on ur bi sexual desires....... u r gay !! u must accept it !! may devil give u the strength to accept it........!!
  • take some mdma...
  • aww im so sorry to hear something like this, but you tell him girl, he might have yourt you badly but he didnt break you!! stand up for yourself!!
  • Be strong, I wish you the best. You deserve to be happy.
  • thats kinda like me i was rapped and abused when i was 16 and know im married and on my first hony moon we started doing it and i got scared and i ran out of the room naked
  • Would it make you feel any better to know that this man were dead? What if he were to suffer first? What is his name and location?
  • You fucking whore .go find ur self a chicken lolly you fuckin slut .ur a sissy. Come suck my cock BITCH!!!!!!!! Get urself raped again.
  • GGGGOOOOOODDDD IIIIIILLLLL FFFUUUCCCKKKIINNNG RRRAAAPPPEE YYOOUU TTOO

    U FUCKING SILLY SLAG GO AND KILL YOURSELF
  • Happened is happened. There is a greater purpose for you in your life. look at that MARCH forward , be a great parent for your children. God bless you and erase this old scar from your mind.
  • Just like you, I was raped when i was at the same age. Now I see what goes is just the same. So I tell you my own experience. now I am 34, and everything is fine with me. you have to trust someone and make a healthy relation and receive the gift of loving (and loving sex). but you have to care most of all of what goes on, and avoid being violent anyway. you can ask a therapist to help you calm down.
  • poor you.. therapy might help

    and to all the people giving retarded comments i hope you'll get something 10times as worse in your life, then we'll see how hard you'll laugh, sad bastards.
  • My sympathies are with you dear
  • you liked it whore
  • you could try being affectionate and standing closer to your family so that you can get more comfortable physically and hopefully you will have the strength to put yourself out there to feel the warmth of someone who cares for you. you might want to compliment them or do something for them that would issue a warm response and maybe eventually they will hug you and you will be able to enjoy it.
  • What can we say? All the good advice has been given already. Just that hang on, and we hope dearly that you can overcome this!

    Keep fighting!
  • Seriously though, you should consider counseling or even filing a police report against the excuse of a person that hurt you like that, both physically adn emotionally. Get some closure, you know? I'm not judging or anything, since I've never been in the situation and I wouldn't know, but I think that's a good idea.
  • get over it!
  • you pathetic mother fucker
  • it's gonna be ok!! the world is full of love that will protect you!! don't give up!
  • aww way to be brave(:

    thats a good choice.
  • Dont look into the past....look into the future...
  • I've read through all the comments left here for you. Most of them reflect how I feel about your situation. The past is the past, my dear, and with strength and will, you will be able to get through this utter travesty that happened to you. This "man", if you can even call him that, can't hurt you anymore, and perhaps he has already had his comeuppance. That, however, should not be something to worry you. You've still got your whole life ahead of you, and now it's time for you to take control of it. Talk about it to someone you trust the most, write down what happened and burn it, just get it all out of your system, and free yourself from the chains of the past.
  • im sorry to hear but nail your dad to a cross hoot him in the fucking testiles and the face
  • same happened to me. no one should be put through it :/
  • Be strong. You are an inspiration.
  • it seems pretty obvious you should have stayed with the guy. You aren't comfortable with others because you ditched your first. It doesn't provide confidence for starting relationships when you won't even stay with the guy you gave your virginity to.
  • god bless you
  • A touching story. I don't know if you are still reading this. But I recommend NLP to you, go for at least a Master Practitioner. They will help you put the trauma behind you and also help reintegrate that part of you who wants to be cuddled. You will be able to enjoy life again.
  • i hope the bastatrd got arrested or else what was coming to him. I know at least 4 people nwho are close to me that have been through the same thing and only 2 of them have prosecuted. one of them has just started prosecuting 8 byears after she wa raped, and you know what? she feels instantly better. and safer.


    My advice to you for your hugging problem is maybe you tyr GIVING hugs and then after a while, when you are more comfortable maybe you'll open up to receiving them. Good luck x
  • I very much doubt the poster of this has been here recently, so no real point in saying anything. But here goes. The giving other people hugs approach might work, eventually, if you can bring yourself to do it, and keep doing it. The NLP approach, if it works at all, will work in just a couple of sessions, maybe only one. Just think, one afternoon, and your problems have gone!
  • I had PTSD from seeing someone killed right in front of me. I tried loads of things, counselling, psychotherapy, CBT. None of it really did any good. I tried NLP as an act of desperation, trust me, I am telling the truth here, one afternoon was enough to get my life back on line. I still remember what happened, but it is now just like it happened in a black and white movie to me, it no longer runs my life. I can't say whether it will work for you, all I can say is it did for me.
  • Thats rite girl don't let him ruin ur life.You are your own person and don't let anyone tell u different. You are so strong to forget about this. You turly are a hero.
  • chea dats right budda... and altho 9 years is hela long... u decided dat u r gunna not let it affect u anymore.. and 4 dat i got sum respect 4 u... oh and stuff lik diz happens alot but u cant lt fucked p stuff lik diz affect u 4 too long
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