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Sent to a friend About a year ago, I came to the realization that god doesn't exist. This wasn't sparked by any traumatizing event, I just realized that god (or the lack thereof) plays no part in my life. Now, I have no crushing feelings of "a lack of god’s omnipotent presence". For 21 years I went to church every week and got nothing out of it. Nothing. I even joined the choir. So, you can't tell me I never gave it the old college try. And try as I might, I can't help it. I'm a realist. Believing in god and prayer doesn't make any sense to me. This video ( does a good job at explaining what I'm talking about. Faith in god is a square peg and my brain’s only got a round hole, despite 21 years of trying to cram it in and make it fit.Here's how I think of it: Basing your life on a strong, unwavering belief of god is like building a cement foundation for your house with ice cubes in it. If you keep your foundation cold (i.e. maintaining your faith), that's fine, you're fine, but if you loose your once strong faith, your ice melts, leaving holes (i.e. crushing, depressing lack of gods presence some feel in such situations). But with me, I had no strong faith to begin with so there's no ice in my foundation.
My problem is how do I tell this to my mother, a devout catholic who has done everything in her power to instill in me a strong faith in god? She would probably kick me out of the house. No joke. I've been lying to her, saying I've been going to evening masses while she's at work.
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- Tell her. I had similar worries about telling my parents the same thing, as they are both Catholic and I had figured out that I definitely am not. It took me months to finally work up the courage to tell them. I realized though, that it would be better to tell them now rather than keep living a lie. That sort of thing just swallows you whole and you can't think about anything else; you just spend all the time when you should be happy stressing and worrying over it. And what's more, I didn't want the whole thing to snowball into something bigger, worse and more complicated. For example, if I ever have kids, there is no way I'll raise them to believe any sort of religion like Christianity. And then I would have no choice but to explain to my parents how I felt. At that point I would have been lying to them for years instead of just months. But I digress. I finally told them. There was no yelling, no throwing me out onto the streets, and my mother did all her crying when she was out of my sight. That was a few years ago, and I am so, so happy that I did it.
Even if your mom pitches you to the curb, you should be happy to at least stand up for yourself and refuse to live a lie to please someone else. I hate to drop quotes, but this one really fits. It's from Ghandi. "Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony." So do what makes you happy. - Just let them know you have faith in them and all they did for you and that you love them no matter what. We all need the love of our families and we want to believe we will see them after we die. Live life a good as you can
- Well, I'm sorry that it seems like God isn't there for you. I know He is. Maybe you're just going through a rough time with faith. I've been through a few. Maybe you just need some time for something to happen to prove God is still there with you. You don't have to believe what I say, but I think that God will draw you back when He plans to. He will never give up on you. And whenever you choose to believe in Him again, I know He'll gladly welcome you back.
- And it might be good to talk to your mother about this actually. Perhaps she can give you some help.
- Talk to your mother, she is the one who needs help, believing in imaginary beings. Get her to see the truth. Ignore the God squad, they hate it when people wisen up, it means they can't be controlled anymore.
- Go ahead break your mothers heart or tell you feel you need to take time out from church so you can to search in your heart the truth and what wants you to do if your life because if doesn't exist to you he doesn't want you to do nothing does he ?
- buy her a cross and tell her this is yours, "not mine" to bear.
