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Sent to a friend All my life I’ve been a compulsive liar. I lie a lot – all the time, about almost everything. I’ve had whole ‘relationships’ function for years based completely on lies. I do it because I need to feel validated and because… well, because I always get away with it.I know karma is probably going to come and bite me on the ass someday, but I can’t stop! It’s like a tick. They always start off really small and then balloon into an elaborate fantasy. I’m amazed that people don’t ever seem to call me out on it.
I want to stop. I sometimes have to consciously tell myself not to do it while I’m talking to someone. I feel so uninteresting and bland. Funny that the one thing that helps make me look better is the same thing that’s making me a bad person.
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- Yeah sure like I'm supposed to belive that.
- you dont sound so bland. i bet you're really interesting.... anyone with that much creativity to think of all those lies must have something interesting to say.~ you should write.
- I met you dude. You never fooled me even for a minute. That is why you have never seen me again.
- u really have to stop telling lies dude!
8 aint really fair to those people
whom u tell all ur lies! - Karma ain't gonna save you it 's just one of those Hocus Pocus of easter religions. but god will judge you unless you repent.
- I think that you will find that people don't trust you and will watch your every move
- I understand this completely. I am the same way. I don't do it to hurt anyone, I just do it to make myself look better. I am so afraid of getting caught and losing people I love.
- Why don’t you try channeling that creativity to something more constructive like sales, politics, or writing?
- People probably know your lying and talk about you behind your back or something. I bet they only let you get away with it because you are hot and/or an easy fuck. I put up with someone under similar circumstances just to get off.
- I have a friend like that, but all his friends can tell when he's lying. Chances are your friends can too, they just care about you too much to call you out.
- try talking outloud to yourself and see what happens just make sure no ones about
- People probably do catch on to your lies, they just dont want to tell you how rediculous you sound.
- It's obvious you have a very serious insecurity complex. You believe that when you lie you can get what ever you want and it has been working for you, but in the long run, your right, it will bite you in the ass. Not only you but the people around you who really care. It's time to change your ways. Why don't you just try being yourself (your true self) and put the fascades away. You may find a whole new person in there somewhere.
- This is really horrible, but the good thing is that u realize that. I had a compulsive liar husband before, so I know what I am talking about. One thing you need to know is that even though you think that you are getting away with it, EVERYONE around you knows about your lies and that you are a liar but they don't tell you because they don't care. As long as your lies don't mess with THEIR lives...its OK for them. The ONLY person that cares about YOU MUST BE YOU!!!! And you know dam well that lieing is not a good thing and one day ( and this day is not far from now) one of your lies is gonna put you in a serious problem. So I would suggest you to look for couseling, some kinda professional help because is the only way out!! GOOD LOCK!!
- If it's that outlandish a lie, then probably everyone knows anyway and just feels sorry for you. Which is kind of tragic
- I know how you feel! I used to lie all the time about everything... I tried using a rubber band to snap my wrist every time I lied, but it almost started cutting into my skin...I then started tallies.
I would mark one on a whiteboard on my wall every time I lied. It was a place where I couldnt walk through my room without seeing all the lies I had told that week. I though of it as God keeping track. As soon as I went back and told the truth or confessed my sins in prayer I would mark one off. It kept me in check and I havent lied since. - Honestly...that last sentence is absurd. I once loved a man from afar...finally got him to notice me but in the end discovered he was a pathological liar. I loved him so much I would've married him, but of course I didn't because pathological liars aren't trustworthy. Don't be stupid. Lying doesn't make you interesting. Being genuine does. If you find your life boring, make some changes and make it interesting. Become a mercenary or a drifter or a soldier...anything that would give you something interesting and TRUE to talk about, if it matters that much to you.
- I dont believe you.
There is no such thing as karma so dont worry about that, and no one on earht doesnt lie at all. Just try to cut down like youre quitting smoking. - you need some therepy....It might really help because you have a technical illness......I know it sounds dumb and other people proably won't understand you situation but this is the exact reason you should seek professional help
- Wow...if you were a guy, I would say you're my ex-boyfriend! Sounds exactly like him...except he wouldn't even admit that he has a problem
- why are you scared that people wont like you for who you really are?
- Tell me about it. I've had the same problem for as long as I can remember.
- You should study Zen Buddhism or Taoism. Such philosophies teach you to stop placing any importance on the self. As long as you want to feel important, you'll keep lying, but when you don't care what people think anymore then you will be comfortable with the truth.
- People like strange, novel, charming people. If you start off on a wild fantasy which is a lie, simply say "no, that was a lie" then tell the truth. You will definitely get a laugh.
You will go from a compulsive liar to a spontaneous, creative, imaginative, funny storyteller. People will love being around you even more because
A. they know you are normal just like them
B. Even though you are normal, you're loads of fun because of all the weird and random funny things you make up. - I can relate...
- deep inside there's this loneliness and emptiness. as you say: you need validation, approval, love, acceptance, you need to be sure, that you're enough, that it's not just okay but great to be yourself. I know a little bit about it. somehow you're even a little bit of irrationally proud of yourself getting away with it and being so inventive.
now first of all:
STOP calling yourself a liar inside. It's great if you admit that you lie, even lie a lot. but that has NOTHING WHATSOEVER to do with who you ARE.
thats very important
Second.
I don't know if you believe in god. now if you do, you probably have this image of a furious punishing god who is very angry at you for lying.
Let me tell you something: All we know about our god is from the bible, and the bible keeps telling us how MUCH god LLLLOOOOOOOVES us.
John 3:16
he knows about all our flaws and stains and STILL his love for us will NEVER end, he says. I mean, he literally MADE us, he knows us better than we do ourselvers.. so
PRACTICAL PART:
go inside your room, lock the door and start talking to god as to a friend. Know what? he ALWAYS listens and he DOES CARE for what's on your mind. you can tell him how HARD you wanna stop lying and try to explain to him, how you feel inside. If you lie all the time, you start beliebing the shit yourself! i know what i'm talking about, and it's really hard to know yourself if you don't even really know anymore what's true and what's not.
so this self-reflection can become a very freeing and revealing practice. At first however it can be very painful to face the void and the lack of affirmation. But that's what your heavenly father has for you!!: A huge infinite indelible YESS! for you! he loves you the way you are, as boring and bland as you think you are. (i can assure you that's NOT true. i can tell that you are an intresting person just by the way you write!
second:
START WRITING STORIES,
POEMS ABOUT PEOPLE,
FICTITIOUS SITUATION SONGS,
SCREENPLAYS, etc...
YOu obviously do have a very huge and diverse fantasy and inspiration:
now THAT's a gift!!
start using it for the good. not everything that we use for bad has bad roots. you just need to control it.
I know sometimes it's hard and humiliating to tell someone the truth seconds after a lie. but also tell your close friends or people who you really trust, that this is a problem of yours and you really wanna stop! this honesty is a remarkable character move..
I think it all starts with accepting yourself as who you are. with everything that bothers you about yourself, with everything that you can't stand, with all the things that you find about yourself being so lame, and everyone else is so much more intresting at it. etc. you get the point.
start standing in front of the mirror looking at yourself and saying: i am a wanted and well done work of art.
Now that's gonna be a fight inside, i tell you!!
but it's worth it. it really is. when a friend told me some of these things, i really thought he went nuts but as i tried and took my time, i started to realize how much i missed out on the beauty and the realness of life.
The decision IS YOURS. you CAN decide. don't let anyone or anything tell you you can't do anything about it.
Wish you all the best. lots of love, from a guy who was overwhelmed of the freeing power of the truth.
- deep inside there's this loneliness and emptiness. as you say: you need validation, approval, love, acceptance, you need to be sure, that you're enough, that it's not just okay but great to be yourself. I know a little bit about it. somehow you're even a little bit of irrationally proud of yourself getting away with it and being so inventive.
now first of all:
STOP calling yourself a liar inside. It's great if you admit that you lie, even lie a lot. but that has NOTHING WHATSOEVER to do with who you ARE.
thats very important
Second.
I don't know if you believe in god. now if you do, you probably have this image of a furious punishing god who is very angry at you for lying.
Let me tell you something: All we know about our god is from the bible, and the bible keeps telling us how MUCH god LLLLOOOOOOOVES us.
John 3:16
he knows about all our flaws and stains and STILL his love for us will NEVER end, he says. I mean, he literally MADE us, he knows us better than we do ourselvers.. so
PRACTICAL PART:
go inside your room, lock the door and start talking to god as to a friend. Know what? he ALWAYS listens and he DOES CARE for what's on your mind. you can tell him how HARD you wanna stop lying and try to explain to him, how you feel inside. If you lie all the time, you start beliebing the shit yourself! i know what i'm talking about, and it's really hard to know yourself if you don't even really know anymore what's true and what's not.
so this self-reflection can become a very freeing and revealing practice. At first however it can be very painful to face the void and the lack of affirmation. But that's what your heavenly father has for you!!: A huge infinite indelible YESS! for you! he loves you the way you are, as boring and bland as you think you are. (i can assure you that's NOT true. i can tell that you are an intresting person just by the way you write!
second:
START WRITING STORIES,
POEMS ABOUT PEOPLE,
FICTITIOUS SITUATION SONGS,
SCREENPLAYS, etc...
YOu obviously do have a very huge and diverse fantasy and inspiration:
now THAT's a gift!!
start using it for the good. not everything that we use for bad has bad roots. you just need to control it.
I know sometimes it's hard and humiliating to tell someone the truth seconds after a lie. but also tell your close friends or people who you really trust, that this is a problem of yours and you really wanna stop! this honesty is a remarkable character move..
I think it all starts with accepting yourself as who you are. with everything that bothers you about yourself, with everything that you can't stand, with all the things that you find about yourself being so lame, and everyone else is so much more intresting at it. etc. you get the point.
start standing in front of the mirror looking at yourself and saying: i am a wanted and well done work of art.
Now that's gonna be a fight inside, i tell you!!
but it's worth it. it really is. when a friend told me some of these things, i really thought he went nuts but as i tried and took my time, i started to realize how much i missed out on the beauty and the realness of life.
The decision IS YOURS. you CAN decide. don't let anyone or anything tell you you can't do anything about it.
Wish you all the best. lots of love, from a guy who was overwhelmed of the freeing power of the truth.
- If you enjoy it, just have fun!
- I'll let you keep 20% and you talk to the people I want you to talk to and be friendly with them. You'll make $1000 a week, and it's discreet.
- I dont believe you!
- im the same way, and i know exactly wat ur talking about. I'm only 17 but i know im a compulsive liar. i wish i could tell everyone that i have lied to them, but i know they no longer talk to me if they knew.
- I agree. I do the same thing.
Your confession almost made me cry.
